Simple way to test BOTH your new IR meter as well as automotive gauge:
Boil some water.
Obviously you can point the meter to the water.
But, to test your sender, you can:
0. Boil a pot of water...say 1 quart. Make sure to pick out your wife's nicest pot, or maybe even Tea Kettle...I went for the tea kettle last time because she would never suspect I would use that.
1. Remove the water temp sender from your car.
2. GROUND the water temp sender to your cars chassis.
3. Make sure the sender's electrical wire is attached.
4. Stick the sender in the pot of boiling water with the electrical wire attached.
5. Turn your ignition key to ON, and see where your gage goes.
The water will tend to cool pretty fast, so you might want to grab your wife's oven or meat thermometer to confirm the water temperature.
You will lose water removing the water sender, so either drain your radiator or go buy a plug. You can look at a sender at the auto parts store to get an idea of the thread you need, unless someone here knows off hand.
This is also a good way to check a new sender/new gage.